“While I think God-as-relationship and God-with-us are important tenets of the Christian tradition, using a singular belief as a litmus test of where God is or isn’t working is, frankly, bullshit.”
Life is designed to let us learn from our past, not to be trapped by it.
You just have to keep moving. Even if it means treading water until the waves calm.
Yes, expectations of grandeur and fulfillment can kill a marriage. But expectations of equality, dignity, and mutual respect can actually save it.